When was the last time you had a ‘ME’ day? I had one recently and it was divine!
I woke up, (which consequently was when I had finished sleeping not when someone woke me or an alarm went off) and decided that I would do exactly what I wanted that day.
I made a deal with myself that I would not utter the word should nor would I think it and my day would pass simply as it happened to.
Every moment was decided at the moment. I didn’t plan a single minute and I chose on the spot what I would do next.
I re-organised my pantry, lay on the floor flicking through books and photo’s in my library. I listened to music, drank coffee and tea, and went for a walk. I spent time sitting on the deck watching the birds and the trees. I even washed the car! I spoke to no one and I didn’t check my phone.
It is very empowering to know that our time is our own – which is weird because our time is always our own.
After lunch, I picked up a book by one of my favorite authors. I read the story of a man who got to a point in his life and decided it wasn’t worth it anymore. He attempted to end it all and found himself in the space between life and death. Not here, not there.
In that space, he experienced what so many of us would do anything for. One…more…day with someone he loved.
He woke up after driving his car off the road, and found himself in his childhood home. When his dead mother walked down the stairs as if everything was normal, he was virtually paralyzed with shock.
As he watched her cook him breakfast and listened to her stories explaining how things really were when he was young, he couldn’t speak. He pleaded with his brain to try and make sense of what was happening.
Finally, he gave up and just surrendered. He concluded, there are some things that just can’t be explained.
After a surreal breakfast, they visited people his mother knew. These visits were with people who thought about her but couldn’t physically see her. He and his mother were invisible to them, but they could feel her around them.
What a random book to read on this particular day.
What a bizarre passing of time I experienced. I had the same 24 hours allocated as the day before, but there was something very different about my me day. I valued it. And I remained present in almost every moment.
💙 When we are quiet, we hear things more clearly.
💙 When we are present we notice things we didn’t see before.
💙 When we stop trying to control everything in our environment, we leave room for wonderful things to happen.
💙 When we believe, we experience the wonders of magic.
💙 And sometimes, when we think about a person passed, we might just feel them visiting with us.
We spend so much time filling our days with busyness and stuff and noise. We chase happiness and the perfect life for sometimes 20, 40, 60 years only to get to the end and feel like somehow we never really found what we were looking for. We almost always wish we had more time.
People make time for the things that are important to them.
When someone says, “I don’t have the time” what they are really saying is, “I am not willing to make this a priority over other things I have going on.”
And that’s okay, but I would ask you to own it! We all have 24 hours in our day and we all spend it according to what’s most important to us. Consciously or unconsciously. Deliberately or by default.
Sometimes we can’t explain why a book calls us on a particular day. Sometimes we can’t explain an overwhelming feeling that seems to envelop us. And we can’t predict what opportunities lie ahead for us to shine or make a difference or help someone else feel special.
💙 Take time out for YOU – this is being kind, not selfish. You will be a better YOU for it. You will also bring a better YOU to those you interact with.
💙 Believe in magic – it’s real! You never know what form it will take, just watch and listen. It happens.
💙 Remember those who have passed with love and a smile. You never know when you might get just One-More-Day … or even a few quiet moments with them, even if you can’t physically see them anymore.
Dalya xx 💙