It’s been a while since I wrote a post, and if you ask me why the gap, and why I am here again today, I can honestly reply in a single word – Change.

Most of us will accept that change is the natural order of things and nothing stays the same, but there is so much more to it than a seemingly simple concept of things just being different. It can be messy (really messy) and filled with a multitude of emotions, options, decisions, and choices and the unforeseen reality that unfolds with each outcome. Ironically, I wrote a post just over two years ago, Change Your Narrative – Change Your Life, which asked the question, Can people really change?

To simplify things, change can probably be broken down into two main types, one which is forced upon us by others, the Universe or from natural consequences, and one we choose to proactively pursue. Either way, change is probably one of life’s great uncertainties. It can arrive like a storm, unexpected and forceful, or it can drift in gently, almost unnoticed, until one day we wake up and realise everything is different and nothing feels the same. We may question at this point why we never saw it coming or how we even got here.

When we seek change, it usually comes from one of two places, love or fear, and both have their challenges. Love leads us to grow, expand, and align with our values; it whispers there is more for you than this. It can come in the form of a new job, a fresh routine, a change of lifestyle or the need to move forward. However, it asks something of us, to let go of what is familiar, and to step into the uncertainty and trust our ability to adapt.

Fear, on the other hand, can drive change through avoidance and can feel more urgent. It whispers you need to escape this, to ignore this, to avoid this. Both can be powerful motivators, but they lead us in very different directions. Part of the work is learning to recognise which voice is driving us and which one we will listen to.

More often than not, we don’t seek out change and can be resistant to it, not because we don’t believe we are capable of it, but because we are fearful of what it might bring as well as what it might take from us. Anyone who has started a new business, set a big goal, or made a big decision can attest to fear presenting in the form of impostor syndrome. It leads us to question our ability, our value, and ask, ‘what if I’m not good enough?’ ‘what if I lose myself?’ or ‘what if I can’t handle it?’ ‘what if I fail?’. Sadly, this stops so many in their tracks, shamefully abandoning what they were excited about a few minutes ago.

And of course, change often involves clearing out old, comfortable habits or stale, inaccurate belief systems to make room for something new, meaningful and beautiful, and this in itself can be a scary process.

So why am I telling you all this?

Mainly because I want you to know that the truth is this: change doesn’t erase who we are; it reveals us by encouraging a stronger version to emerge. It peels back layers and invites us to grow into something deeper, more resilient, more real. It encourages us to listen to our soul and trust in something we can’t see, having blind faith that everything always works out the way it is supposed to.

Every change presents an exhilarating opportunity for growth and opens a door to new adventures. It is up to us how we respond to its invitation. Sometimes the smallest adjustments (changes), such as kinder words (toward others or ourselves), deciding to trust, or remaining present through discomfort, are the small shifts that create the biggest revolutions within.

And it’s okay if you haven’t got it figured out, if you are standing right on the edge or in the messy middle of change, stop… take a moment to breathe… and take the next step… while holding a compassionate space for something new and wonderful to emerge.

Change is not our enemy, but rather the beginning of something we haven’t seen or experienced yet.

It’s good to be back …

Much love
Dalya and Ben xx 💙